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verbal:<\/strong><\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
1. judging<\/strong><\/td>\nmaking a judgment<\/td>\n1) you should \u2026 and 2) you ought to \u2026<\/td>\nmom, i’m not sure what to do about my class schedule this year. it’s really tough with all the extras i’ve got to do.<\/td>\nyou should take every math and science course offered. you ought to see how important that is.<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
2. rejecting<\/strong><\/td>\ngiving no support<\/td>\nit’s your problem, not mine.<\/td>\ndad, that boy just took my truck.<\/td>\nit’s your problem. you solve it.<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
3. blaming, criticizing<\/strong><\/td>\nplacing fault on the other person<\/td>\nit’s your fault.<\/td>\nmom, the jar of glue just fell over on the floor.<\/td>\nlook what you did! the carpet is ruined! it’s all your fault!<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
4. labeling<\/strong><\/td>\ncalling negative names or words that are negative<\/td>\nonly a dummy would do it that way.<\/td>\nyour 8-year-old got dressed for school\u2014orange and blue shirt, green and yellow striped pants, red socks, sandals, and a baseball hat.<\/td>\nonly a clown would dress like that for school!<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
5. transferring<\/strong><\/td>\nnot listening and jumping in with one’s own problems<\/td>\nlet me tell what happened to me.<\/td>\ndad, it’s not my fault my math teacher hates me.<\/td>\nlet me tell you about my boss. you think you’ve got trouble!<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
6. ordering<\/strong><\/td>\ngiving solutions with no choices<\/td>\nyou must do this now.<\/td>\ni think i’ll go to the movies tonight mom.<\/td>\nyou will not. you’re going to stay home and study. you’re going to bring your grades up.<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
7. threatening, bribing<\/strong><\/td>\nusing threats or bribes to try to make someone do something<\/td>\n1) if you don’t do what i want \u2026 and 2) if you do what i want, i do this for you.<\/td>\nbut dad, it’s the last night for “star wars,” and i haven’t seen it.<\/td>\nif you don’t study, there will be no car this weekend.<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
8. waffling<\/strong><\/td>\nnot being clear and consistent in setting limits<\/td>\n1) well, maybe \u2026, 2) we’ll see \u2026, and 3) i’ll think about it \u2026<\/td>\nmom, i really need to know if i can go to the concert on saturday night.<\/td>\nwe’ll see\u2014i’ll think about it.<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
9. nagging<\/strong><\/td>\npersistently repeating orders or requests<\/td>\n1) i’ve told you a thousand times \u2026 and 2) how many times do i have to ask you to \u2026<\/td>\ni’ll pick up the puzzle later dad.<\/td>\ni’m not going to tell you again. i’ve told you ten times to pick it up. now!<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
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10. acting<\/strong><\/td>\nusing body language that sends negative messages or that rebuffs; being physically abusive<\/td>\n1) crossing arms, 2) not looking at speaker, 3) walking away, 4) tapping feet, 5) shaking finger in face, 6) hitting, and 7) kicking.<\/td>\nyour child comes home from school, slams the door shut, drops his\/her clothes on the floor, kicks the cabinet, and turns on the tv.<\/td>\nyou frown, cross your arms, tap your foot, and stand in front of your child.<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n