i had my first abortion when i was 16 after getting involved with a divorced neighbor i had babysat for who was 16 years older than me.
\ni had low self-esteem, was looking for someone to love me, and had difficulty saying no.<\/p>\n
he should’ve known better certainly–or at least made sure we used birth control though i also should’ve been responsible. my parents had to agree to the “procedure.” we were going to family counseling, and the therapist was supportive. following this, i ended up marrying him for some stupid reason–part of it was to get away from my controlling mother and the other was likely that i convinced myself i was in love, after all. i stayed married 12 years and had two wonderful children, who are now grown and quite successful–and not just financially. i had started taking college courses toward the end of the marriage. my husband made me feel like a piece of meat by brushing my boob when i went by, lifting the covers to look at my genitals before leaving for work, and basically raping me the last time we had sex (i just laid there).<\/p>\n
my second abortion was when i was 31. i had been seeing someone i worked with–basically forced him into the relationship by going to his place and asking him to go places. he wasn’t even very cute and not thrilled i had two children. he had told me he was going out of town for a new job (he told me he was working in one city but actually it was another). i had stopped taking the pill but had sex with him before he moved. i remember wishing i would get pregnant–what an idiot i was!! i told him of my condition, and he wanted me to get an abortion, but not to let his mother ever know, since his family was catholic. since i didn’t want to face the stigma of being pregnant and didn’t want my children to feel ashamed, i did. again, i had no regrets. it was so stupid of me not to use protection–and him!!<\/p>\n
i ended up marrying him and we had a child a year after–his one and only. i had an iud put in–which i noticed had recently expired though my gynecologist wasn’t worried about. low and behold, i got pregnant in three months! he wanted me to have the baby but i just couldn’t do it! as it was, he wasn’t very helpful, wanted me to finish my education, so i could teach and make money. i was quite dissatisfied as the ten years passed. he had nothing to do with my older children and his idea of a good time on the weekends was to sleep late and watch sports. what was really weird was that every time we had sex, both he and i would wear shirts. he never touched my boobs much less other areas. that was quite bizarre! i decided it would be better to not be married if i was going to do things alone without him.<\/p>\n
while some may be shocked by me having three abortions in my lifetime, it’s really none of their business! i find it interesting that many conservatives don’t want government interference in people’s lives, but want to ban abortion. i have no regrets and never wonder what it would’ve been like had i had these potential children.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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