i got pregnant at the age of 19, i had two jobs and was a full time student. i lived in a small southern town, and didn\u2019t even realize that abortion was a real option or how to even go about getting one.
\nthe father had a decent job and was willing to settle down and raise a baby with me. so, i quit school (vowing to one day go back) and had a baby girl shortly after my 20th birthday. well, the father settled down just long enough to move me far from my family and strand me and my newborn in a strange new town. so, there i was \u2013 a single mom with a half-finished degree, no real support system, and too much pride to go back home and live with my mom.<\/p>\n
fast forward six months, i met a fabulous single dad and we start to hang out. things get serious and i move in with him. i feel as though i should say that i don\u2019t always make the best decisions concerning men. i just don\u2019t . well, he wasn\u2019t fabulous, he was controlling, he was emotionally abusive, and he couldn\u2019t hold a job. but, i learned from previous mistakes and always used condoms, and they probably would have worked fine, except mr. controlling used a needle to poke holes in all of them. nice, i know.<\/p>\n
so, there i was \u2013 in a relationship i knew wouldn\u2019t last, pregnant. i knew almost im世界杯2022亚洲预选赛b组 tely that i was expecting, and this time i didn\u2019t try to kid myself by saying it was the flu. i had to do something. i reached out to another single mom and moved in with her, and completely separated myself from the boyfriend. this was the late 90\u2019s, well before the internet, so i drug out the phonebook and looked for an abortion provider. the first three i called weren\u2019t abortion clinics at all, but some sort of church scam that tried to make me keep the baby.<\/p>\n
finally, i found planned parenthood, but they could only refer not abort. they referred me to a clinic about 90 minutes from my house. i called and made the appointment, but i wasn\u2019t very far along, maybe 4- 5 weeks, and they told me i would have to wait 3 weeks before they could perform the procedure. it was the longest wait of my life, i had all the regular symptoms, the morning sickness, the back aches, the mood swings, and the knowing. the knowing that my body was betraying me by growing this child that i did not want and could not possibly afford.<\/p>\n
the cost for the abortion was $440. a relative fortune to a single mom. i broke down and asked the now ex for half the money, he said he\u2019d have it, and he was willing to drive me to my appointment, as i was unwilling to tell another soul. he was not happy about it, and tried to convince me to have the baby, but i could not. he used the time waiting for me at the clinic to kick the fender on my car, so my driver’s door would no longer open.<\/p>\n
it was april 1997 when i had the abortion; i have never been so relieved about anything else in my entire life. it was the best decision i could have possibly made. i remember very little about the actual procedure, except that i refused the valium they offered because i had to go to work afterwards. for a while i felt guilty about not being guilty, but i don\u2019t regret it and rarely think about it.
\ni am thankful that i was able to do this for my daughter and myself.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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