i entered planned parenthood. was patted down by the security guard. admitted to the waiting room. called into the clinic. put on a flimsy pastel hospital smock. treated by very professional and compassionate female-bodied doctors. blood work done. cold lubed up ultrasound. asked if i was sure this was the right choice for me.<\/p>\n
lay down on the operating table. \u201cwhat do you like to do?\u201d said the nurse. shot of anesthesia. \u201ci am playing peter pan. the production opens in two weeks\u2026\u201d felt tears slide out of my eyes as i fell asleep to the nurse saying: \u201cit\u2019s going to be alright honey,\u201d underneath a large poster with kittens grinning down from the ceiling. suction noise. woke up. drowsy. wheeled into recovery room. nausea cloud lifted. looked around me\u2014saw so many of us sitting there. ate a saltine cracker. got dressed. felt relieved. didn\u2019t know how to feel. boyfriend drove me home. felt victorious. wanted to forget. feeling still lingers.<\/p>\n
bottom line: we need safe spaces to discuss our abortion stories.<\/p>\n
last spring i found out i was two months pregnant. my partner at the time and i decided that abortion was the only solution. this decision was one of the simplest decisions of my life with the most painful aftermath. as a junior at the university of massachusetts with no fiscal stability, i was in no place to be a mother. i write this open letter because through sharing this experience i realized how many women in my life and at this school have had similar experiences but have been silenced by a sexist culture of shame. having an abortion is already a difficult choice, but the loneliness, alienation and reinforced silence add another unbearable weight.<\/p>\n
we all have a collective responsibility to dismantle these abusive social constructs of shame, regardless of our personal views. these constructs are suppressive and destructive to women. we need to change the polarizing language of pro-life and pro-choice and make a bipartisan commitment to pro-women\u2019s health care. we can\u2019t pretend that abortion doesn\u2019t happen because there is silence, just like we can\u2019t say sex doesn\u2019t happen as a justification for abstinence education in our schools.<\/p>\n
i needed to share my story because the language surrounding this right to abort becomes institutionalized, unfeeling and politically impersonal. everyone\u2019s abortion story is different. after my abortion, i found myself determined to persevere. i distracted myself from the personal grief and pushed through the semester and claustrophobic depression. in my experience, the university of massachusetts has been exemplary in supporting me. i dream of the day when letting a professor know \u201ci had an abortion,\u201d is like saying \u201ci have the flu.\u201d i am not trying to make this sound casual. this is a matter of normalcy leading to acceptance. women will not have to lie or hide what happened.<\/p>\n
i am pro-choice, but my feelings became complicated. let me say it again, this is not an easy decision for everyone, and it certainly was not for me. yet, i felt empowered by a state system that honored my rights. i took control of my life. i knew that i wanted a family in the future but that this was not my time. i was only able to have this abortion because a series of privileges aligned to grant me access to my right:<\/p>\n
1. i had the steadfast support, love and respect of my partner and our parents.<\/p>\n
2. i was able to secure a free pregnancy test and consultation at tapestry health, where the compassionate staff calmly confirmed my pregnancy and articulated my options.<\/p>\n
3. the same day, i was connected with planned parenthood in springfield, where i was supported through my ultimate decision to abort.<\/p>\n
4. the woman on the phone called it a pregnancy. not a fetus, or a baby.<\/p>\n
5. i wasn\u2019t subject to inhumane \u201cwaiting legislation,\u201d where in some states a woman is forced to wait a harrowing 72 hours after pregnancy is confirmed to make an appointment.<\/p>\n
6. my partner had a car and was able to drive me to the appointment.<\/p>\n
7. the nearest planned parenthood was only a half-hour away in springfield.<\/p>\n
8. my insurer was health new england and they covered the cost of the procedure.<\/p>\n
9. i wasn\u2019t subjected to the abusive requirement of looking at the ultrasound before the procedure. i was given a choice. i said no.<\/p>\n
10. i was able to tell my professors and director: \u201ci. had. an. abortion. this is a difficult personal\/emotional time right now,\u201d and they supported me through it.<\/p>\n
11. i found myself in the rand theater, flying over an audience playing peter pan, 10 days later.<\/p>\n
now, almost a year later, i am left staring at this list thinking about how lucky i am. if these circumstances of privilege hadn\u2019t lined up, i would have a one-week old child in my arms right now. this thought breaks my heart yet makes me fight harder for my rights because i would have fewer opportunities right now if i had a child. access should not be a privilege.<\/p>\n
whether you know it or not, the women in your life are in need of this access. denying women the right to abortion is like looking your mother, sister or female-bodied friend in the eye and saying: \u201ci don\u2019t care about your health, or your equal right to freedom.\u201d let\u2019s break the silence.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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