i wish i could tell everyone my story without enduring judgment, but the sad fact remains that\u00a0few people seem capable or willing to try to understand this situation and they react with irrational emotion rather than empathy and thus no productive discourse can happen.<\/p>\n
i’ve had not one, but two abortions and the simple fact is, they did save my life.<\/p>\n
i was once with an abusive partner, unfortunately for several years, and refusing sex was not an option and we were always one part-time hourly paycheck away from being destitute. it wasn’t long before i could no longer afford birth control pills and as soon as i stopped taking them i got pregnant. my only reaction was terror. if i\u2019d kept the baby, there\u2019d be no chance of getting away from him. keeping it wasn’t an option.<\/p>\n
it was not a traumatic decision, nor was the experience \u2013 it was difficult and unfortunate, but it was the only choice that would preserve some small chance of escape. after that, i found a way to get back on some form of b\/c (he wouldn’t wear condoms) but the one other time i couldn’t afford it i got pregnant again. it was the same decision for the same reasons and to this day, i only regret that i was with such a monster. i don\u2019t regret the decision.<\/p>\n
soon thereafter i\u2019d gotten a better job and was able to afford consistent contraception. this is where the right wing nut conservatives get it so wrong. if women have access to education and contraception, abortions can be prevented. shutting down family planning clinics (which are usually the only option for low-income women to obtain both education and contraception) just ensures more abortions.<\/p>\n
of course i\u2019d like to have had different circumstances, but that wasn’t the reality. eventually i was able to get out (i packed my bags & ran one day when he was at work) and i made a new life \u2013 a great life where i\u2019m safe, respected and happy \u2013 which wouldn’t have been possible had i kept those kids. i\u2019d have been tied to that monster for the rest of those kids\u2019 lives and they likely would have felt my sadness, resentment and regret every single day.<\/p>\n
i realize as i\u2019m writing this how i\u2019m making sure to justify my decision with all the sordid details above, but it\u2019s really nobody else\u2019s business. it was my decision and only i am responsible for what happens to me. my only regret is getting tangled up with someone who was so destructive to my life in so many ways and not finding a way to get out sooner. if i\u2019d not had access to planned parenthood i really don\u2019t want to think about what my life (or those kids\u2019 lives) would be like today.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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