when we got pregnant the first time, we were in no position to parent a child right then, and had an abortion at eight weeks. it was not pleasant, but then neither is getting a dental cavity filled.

i found myself pregnant when i was in graduate school in social work, in a relationship with a vietnam veteran who'd been injured and had signs of what now would be called ptsd. i was taking the pill, we were much in love, but no way were we considering marriage. i got an early pregnancy test,

yamani's story

i terminated two pregnancies, one the year before and one the year after i had my daughter.

deb's story

i have always been careful. i have always been the kind of person who looked before i leapt. the one time i didn't, i was on vacation with a group of girl friends. we were out having a great time and i met a great guy. i decided to take a chance and wound up pregnant.