my children do not know i chose them over the pregnancy, but that is exactly what i did. i was 36, it was january 2013 when i knew i was pregnant. bc failure.

he was my first serious boyfriend and neither of us knew anything about birth control or pregnancy prevention thanks to the lack of accurate sex ed from our religious high school.

i was 41 years old and a mother to an 18 year old, 14 year old and 7 year old. my husband and i had started a new business and put all of our savings into it, along with mortgaging all of our property and maxing out all of our credit cards.

i had an abortion in my thirties. i got pregnant when a condom came off during sex. my partner pulled out before i had a chance to secure it.

in the early months of my twenty-first year, i wanted to end things with my boyfriend. he had disrespected my sexual boundaries, and i have no tolerance for that.

i'm one of those rare women who have had an iud fail. it was may my junior year of college. my boyfriend and i had just relocated to california for summer jobs when i figured out the highly improbable: i was pregnant.