i am happily married to the man of my dreams. we had had the staying child-free discussion before and we were in accord.

i was a 22 year-old college senior. i had been on the pill since i was 17 and i was pretty used to it. the guy that i was seeing and i broke up in november and in december went home for winter break.

i was exactly halfway through graduate school. i wanted to finish, and continue a career in my field. even though i had an iud, i discovered i was pregnant.

this saturday marks four weeks since i broke off a five year relationship with my boyfriend, who i had hoped to spend the rest of my life with, and asked him to move out.

i was in my 30s years old at the time. i had always wanted a baby - eventually - but due to pursuing my education, becoming financially stable, and finding the right partner, the time hadn't previously been right.