my partner and i were not ready. it was one of hardest things i’ve ever done. i’m writing this because today i realised that i don’t think about it very often anymore. if i do think about it, i seem to feel okay and i feel at peace with the decision i made. maybe 6 months after it happened i realised it wasn’t a good or a bad decision- that in fact it was just ‘a’ decision. i am sharing this because i had no idea that the grief would be so huge, so overwhelming and a grief now one offered much support towards. i don’t regret my decision at all, but i really wish i had the supported i needed to get through what was a very dark time. i wish people understood some people who have abortions can experience significant grief, and that it doesn’t go away after a few weeks. i felt so alone, depressed and anxious, and i think a lot of that could had been avoided if i had received more support. if you’re going through it i promise it gets easier, it just takes time. be kind to yourself and talk to someone you trust because you don’t have to carry the load all alone <3