i was in my early 30s and in a relationship and we had been using condoms. i had not been on the pill but things can and do happen.

i began to have terrible morning sickness and i realized that i could be pregnant. i took a pregnancy test and it was positive. i then sat down with my then partner and we talked it over. neither of us was ready to be a parent, in fact, neither of us wanted children. we both were in no position to raise a child.

i was an only child and had come from a home with a very abusive mother (physical and mental) and i had never had any maternal feelings. i was not ready to become a parent then and 22 years later i know i would have not been a good parent.

so after much discussion i made the call to planned parenthood and made an appointment and they laid out the options for me. a couple of weeks later i had an abortion. it was a tough decision for both of us. today i have been married to that partner for 19 years and we never regretted the decision.