when i had an abortion. we had just gotten to the point where both of our kids were in school and i was able to work more when our birth control failed. we didn’t want more children and i never regretted my decision. i haven’t hidden the fact that i’ve had an abortion, but i’ve been selectively forthcoming. i have family members who are adamantly “pro-life” and i’ve occupied this strange headspace where i simultaneously feel sorry for their ignorance, but also fear their judgement, so i’ve talked generally about abortion, not personally. but with all of the attacks on women’s healthcare, i’m more afraid that other women won’t (because some already don’t) have the same choices i did. my abortion was good for me and it was good for my family. it was safe. it was professional. it was accessible. all women deserve the same choice.