i want to tell my story of abortion, because i am unapologetic about it. i am also unapologetically polyamorous and married to my primary partner.

in 2015, i went to planned parenthood to get routine sti testing, as i had recently started seeing a new partner. when i got there, the nurse asked if i wanted a pregnancy test, and i was planning to decline, but then thought, why not? better safe than sorry. i did not expect it to be positive. when she told me that the pregnancy test was positive, i just cried im世界杯2022亚洲预选赛b组 tely- it was my visceral reaction to this news.

i knew right away the exact moment when i’d gotten pregnant. it was with my new partner. we had used a condom. i had taken the morning-after pill just to be sure, because i knew that i was close to ovulating in my cycle. i was surprised because i thought my measures would have helped prevent pregnancy.

the nurse was very kind. she helped me call over to the other planned parenthood that gave abortions. i was just over 6 weeks, and i scheduled a surgical abortion for the very next day after work.

i told my husband right away. my husband was supportive, but couldn’t come to the clinic with me. we lived in the city, so i was able to walk there. one my way to the clinic the very next day, i called my new partner and told him that i was pregnant and that i was on my way to get an abortion. he was also very supportive.

the abortion was a smooth process. they did an ultrasound, and asked if i wanted to see it (required by law in that state). i said no. when i was called back for the procedure, there was a doctor and advocate present, both amazing women. i felt safe. i listened to the pixies on my ipod and the advocate held my hand. i was not allowed to take the pain meds since i was alone. there was not a lot of pain-it mostly felt like bad cramping for about 30 seconds. then it was over. i bled for a few days like a heavy period.

i count myself as very lucky for so many reasons, but i wish everyone had this kind of abortion experience. i was able to work from home the next day because my job was flexible, and i worked for a progressive non-profit. both of my partners were supportive. i lived in massachusetts, a state that has fairly liberal policies around 2022年世界杯亚洲积分 . my health insurance covered the procedure 100%. the doctors, nurses, and advocates were incredible and kind.

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