i’m going to make this relatively succinct. i had an on-again-off-again boyfriend for three years. during one of our “off” phases, i stopped taking birth control because i wasn’t having sex. a few months later, i started talking to said ex again. we went out one night, had too much to drink, and engaged in irresponsible, unprotected intercourse. i didn’t even miss my period before taking a pregnancy test because i just knew. and i was right! i chose to have an abortion and it was the best decision i ever made. i don’t ever want to have children and definitely did not want a child with him. why would i choose to expose a child to such a toxic relationship? he was emotionally abusive and i wanted a better life for myself than that. so i left him. i refuse to allow others to make me feel guilty for making this decision. six years have passed and i’ve never been happier.