when i was 25 i had a planned pregnancy with my husband. there were no complications. when i was 27, my husband and i were separated and i was in a new relationship. between 2007 and 2009 i had 2 more pregnancies, neither planned. the first i miscarried and the second was aborted. i thought about the decision and talked about it with my partner. we agreed that we were not in a position to bring another life into our family. the day of the appointment, he stayed home with my daughter who was barely 2 at the time. i was alone in the office, alone in the room, and alone in recovery. i felt alone for years, until a friend i met in 2010 revealed she, too, had an abortion. now i’m not alone.