i am 49 and i have had two abortions. one when i was 28 and one when i was 34. both times i was married. the first time we were newly married and i knew we were not ready emotionally or financially to care for a child. as it turned out, we ended up divorcing. i felt no guilt at having the abortion. the second was when my second child was 1 year old and again i was married. we had two children together. i knew i was already overwhelmed with two and could not manage another. nor did i think our marriage could manage another. 4 years later we separated and divorced. i felt a little more conflict after the second, but worked through it and have been happy to be available to my two children and move on in life. of course it is a pleasure raising my children, but it is also a lot of work. i am glad i knew when i was up to it and when i wasn’t. i would have preferred to avoid pregnancy than have an abortion, but am so utterly grateful abortion was an option. just before i went under i told the doctor so. i am also so grateful to those who spend a good part of their life to continue to make this option available to all of us who are human. i am an educated, intelligent, active member of society who is simply human.