i waited until i was 18 to have sex and was certain that i knew everything i needed to know. my mom was very open, i read all the books, and had some sex education in high school. what i wasn’t prepared for was getting involved with a really good liar.

he was a few years older than me and told me that he was infertile. when we were just about to get intimate (my first time) and i pulled out a condom he said that we didn’t need that because he and his ex tried to get pregnant and weren’t able to. he said his doctor confirmed it. i thought to myself “what 24 year old guy talks to his doctor about this?” i should have gone with my instinct, but i was ready to take the plunge (very ready).

sure enough a few weeks later, after coming out of the bathroom for the third time that day it just hit me. i knew at that moment that i was pregnant. i took the test and it told me what i already knew. children were definitely not part of my plan. not that i had much of a plan, but kids were not on my radar. i made the decision to have an abortion and have never regretted it for one moment. i thought i might want to have children one day, but as it turns out i never did. i have a great life and don’t feel like i’ve missed out on anything. my husband and i work hard, travel, enjoy our pets and our friends. i hope other women find peace with their decision.